Eleventh Perspective


From Self-love to Love-Self

1 st Draft

  1. We have our self-love and we have our Love-self.
  2. Our self-love expresses our psychology; our Love-Self expresses our transcendence.
  3. Our self-love is concerned with our ego-sensuality; our Love-self is concerned with our human-
    transcendence.
  4. Our self-love preserves our self-identity; our Love-self preserves our self-freedom.
  5. Our self-love says “I”; our Love-self says “We.”
  6. Self-love says, “Me first”; Love-self says “You first.”
  7. CONCERNING OUR SELF-LOVE: Self-preference, self-concern, self-interest, self-assertion, self-
    confidence, self-conscious, self-sufficient, self-contained, self-control, self-defense, self-denial,
    self-depreciation, self-destruction, self-determination, self-effacing, self-esteem, selflessness, self-
    criticism, self-giving, selfish, unselfish, self-identity, self-importance, self-assurance, self-centered,
    self-mastery, self-poised, self-recrimination, self-regard, self-righteous, self-sacrifice, self-
    satisfaction, self-seeking self-starter, self-sufficient, self-will, self-worth
  8. Yes, we love ourselves – natural; Yes, we love Love – trans-natural .
  9. I did it for my own sake as contrasted with I did it for Love’s sake.
  10. Our ego-self: I want; our self-love: I need.
  11. Since the word “self” is included in both self-love and Love-self, let us take a look at the word as it
    applies either predominantly to self-love or Love self, or to both.

2 nd Draft

  1. We have our self-love – that we’re all too familiar with; and we have our Love-self, with which we
    are not so familiar.
  2. Acquaintance with our Love-self is to be the quest of our life – a life of beauty and wonder.
  3. And what is this Love-self of which we are to be acquainted? Is it not the very pith, essence, of our
    being? How so? As Love binds all individual beings as one, so our Love-self binds us not only to

our individual being, but to all beings as well. And “all beings” is as if to say, being itself as the
bond of all beings.

  1. The ultimate act of selfless love: “Greater love has no man than he lay down his life for his friend”
    The ultimate act of self-love: Greater love has no man than he forego inappropriate pleasure and
    pain.
  2. My Love-self connects me to Love-Itself, or simply Love.
  3. My self-love is one of the All of my Love-self.
  4. My Love-self can be identified with the Eastern’s  concept “Self”, or “Atman”, or the Western
    concept “Soul”. Love-self is more particularized or specific.
  5. My Love-self determines all facets of my self-love: psychological, physiological, biological,
    transcendent.
    9.  Our ego is an aspect, derivative, of our self-love. I might call it our ego- self.
    10.  And since our ego is wrapped up in our sensuality in all its aspects, we can finalize self-love
    as our ego-sensual self.
    11.  Our self-love (and all of its aspects) fall under our psychology; our Love-self falls under our
    transcendence. And our ego-sensual self falls under our humanness; sometimes termed our
    “all-too-human” self.
    12.  In loving ourself, we ultimately love Love, whether we know it or not. Accordingly, would it not
    be a good for us to come to know Love so that we love ourselves more?
    13.  As Love universally is the bond of all unity, love particularly, is the bond of our unity. And that
    is our connection to all unity, all Love.
    14.  And so, analogously, we can relate our self-love to our Love- self, as the familiar wave to the
    ocean, and the ocean to the wave. And that “This is all ye need to know,” to quote the poet,
    Keats.
    15.  With this in mind, where does it take us; what are you going to do?

3 rd DRAFT

  1. Our Love-Self is our eternal youth, our immortal mortality.
  2. We have our self-love, our Love-Self, and their Love-Being – or simply Love itself or Being itself.
    Our self-love is our humanity in all its splendor, squaler, and meaning, our Love-Self is our trans-
    cendence in all its wonder and meaning, and their Love-Being is the source of both in all its sa-
    credness and meaning.
  3. Make your Love-Self your constant companion.
  4. Yes, love your self; it’s your humanity; and yes love your Love-self even more since it is that which
    enriches your humanity.
  5. In your weakness, garnish strength from your Friend and Companion.
  6. No one loves you? Yes; then be loved by your Love-self.
  7. No one loves you as you would want to be loved? Yes; then be loved by your Love-Self.
  8. When you burn with untoward desire or lust, or revenge, or resentment, turn to the immediacy of
    your Love-self and it can transcend you with its flood of ease, calm and relief – Freedom!.
  9. Consider Jesus or Buddha or Krishna, or anyone else divinely lived as the embodiment of your
    Love-self; so, by living their precepts, their gospel, you’re in touch with their divinity. But if neither
    personage will do for you, then you have the source of their gospel within yourself to be in
    touch with – your Love- self, as it was theirs.
  10. Your Love-self is with you always, right or wrong; but with a conscience if guiltily wrong.
  11. It is with you always, conscious or unconscious of It; but it is your task to make it conscious so that
    It becomes an intimate part of your daily life.
  12. Think It always, though you may not feel It always – or even rarely. Actually you neither think nor
    feel It itself; but rather the effects of It.
  13. When your humanness springs its multifarious offshoots – which is nearly always – consider it your
    self-love that motivates it; when your transcendence intervenes – which, in comparison to your
    humanness, is nearly never ̶ consider it your Love-self that intervenes to remind you that you are
    more than your humanness.
  14. Self-love: self-preservation, self-interest, self-involvement, self-centered, self-confident, self-
    assured, self-esteem, self-mastery, self-respect, self-aware, self-abasement, self-absorption, self-
    flattery, self-complacent, self-conscious, self-control, self-deceit, self-improvement, self-sabotage,
    self-sufficient, self-defense, self-indulgent, self-incrimination, self-sacrifice, self-seeking, self-
    righteous, self-reliant, self-restraint, self-excitation, self-abuse, self-destruction … − all natural, both
    beneficial and harmful; but limiting, insecure, threatened, temporary,
  15. Your self-love is referred to as “who”; your Love-self is referred to as “what.” “Who” is personal;
    “What” is transpersonal. Both have their place in our lives. But the question remains always for
    each individual: Which is to take precedence in one’s life? I suppose it comes down to which is
    more pressing, if not consciously, then unconsciously to the individual. In either case, one’s Love-
    self is eternally present being conscious of It or unconscious of It.
  16. Become intimate with your Friend; personalize It; since It is you limitlessly.
  17. You’re hurting emotionally? Turn it over to your Friend. It will help you take care of it.
  18. Something is present ever in the background of our mind that induces us to think and act
    transcendently beyond our humanness wherever we can. Let us call that ever-presence our Love-
    self: that aspect of us that wants and needs to love beyond ourselves and to be loved for
    ourselves.
  19. Our Love-self is indifferent to good and evil – actually to everything human – It is just “there” for us
    to choose or not , utilize or not, to unify ourselves with any given situation or person.
  20. Our Love-self we can think of as simply Love – that which binds all things, all matters, in unity. In
    which case, our Love-self is no more nor no less than Love Itself, other than being personalized.
  21. It is our mind that personalizes Love as our Love-self.
  22. Yes, you will lose touch with your Love-self periodically; but it is there for you when you are ready
    for your return. What determines this “readiness” is indeterminate; but it will happen for sure so
    long as you do not sink under your humanness.
  23. Our Love-self is Love personalized.
  24. Old, unwanted habits cling to us tenaciously however in the background of our mind they may be;
    and the more insistent they are, the more they trouble us, even torture us.
  25. And should we lose that whom we love the most, the most intense, – child or spouse especially –
    for that loss there is no remedy, no “except”. Our vital nature takes over and grief consumes us so
    that we die to our self-love and so to our Love-self for the duration of that grief. What remains is a
    kind of suspended vacuum encased in pain if not anguish. Self-love will return as will Love self.
    Which, however will have the more effect on one’s life?
  26. Old, unwanted habits cling to us however they may be placed in the background of our mind; and
    the more insistent they are, the more they pervade our lives and relationships. How does our Love-
    self, our Friend, override, overcome, those pests? Probable answer: A habit stronger than all other
    habits. And you know the habit of which I speak.
  27. When overwhelmed by pernicious or lusting habits – or more to the point, addictions – you can be
    sure that our Love-self is fairly much deadened without recourse. And so? Possible answer:
    rebuild! replace! rearrange! these stimulus-response, synaptic, cellular reactions, reflexes, so that
    attraction turns either to recoil or to passivity. A matter of reconditioning and reinforcement. How?
    Answers abound, according to each individual and each situation. Yet one constant underlies all
    these answers, whether they be psychological, philosophical, religious, spiritual, and that is, the
    ever-abiding Love-self: our savior.
  28. Yes, Jesus may be your savior, or Buddha, or Krishna, or Mohammed, or whoever else; but keep
    in mind that these personages were illumined by their experience of the eternity of Love, whether
    called Brahma, or God, or Allah, or Dharma, whichever; and that Love expressed itself through
    their Love-self for which they were in touch and lived by. We too can live by and through our Love-
    self; most likely not nearly to the extent that these masters did, still, as Lennon sang in “Instant
    Karma,” you can Come and get your share.
  29. Concerned about doing the right thing or not? Your Friend will help you decide.
  30. Some of us are temperamentally graced with the virtue of patience; others are not. For those who
    are not, only by turning to our Love-self can we temper the thrust of our intemperate impatience.
  31. As for our wayward impulses – well, all I can say about them is that we do not have much of a
    chance against them; except, perhaps, in some cases, if we are immersed enough in our Love-self
    as a way of life. It is a struggle – not always, but enough to realize and accept that, after all, we
    are, and always will be to some degree subject to vagaries of our humanness.
  32. Oh, the relief to turn to my Love-self and be relieved of that anxious, desperate, mood!
  33. Here is a way to offset unwanted thoughts and images when they invade and pervade your
    vulnerable mind: − Repeat on the spot, the word “Transcendence” over and over again rapidly so
    that you do not leave “room” for any other thought. Then just as quickly, switch to the thought of
    your “Love-self” and repeat rapidly “My Love-self,” or “My Friend,” or simply “Love”; keep at it until
    the unwanted/wanted thought dispels. If the word these latter word-thoughts do not take effect,
    then return to the rapid repetition of the word “Transcendence”. That should do it, if you truly want

or need to rid yourself of that tempting thought or image. And for this process to have a lasting,
consistent effect, you have to be strongly determined to make it work; otherwise, long-term
psychological habits persist relentlessly – I mean it is a matter of being embedded in your cells
(stimulus/response, attraction/repulsion, depletion/repletion it will always work for minor matters; for
major matters, the struggle is ongoing so long as temptation is on the make to seduce you. You
know that phrase the motto, “make love not war”; well, relatedly, Your motto is to be “Make victory
not defeat.”

  1. Frenetic! Frantic! Obsessive! Furious! Lustful! – These emotional extremities are self-love gone
    impulsively wild, which instinctively place us on the verge of going “over the edge,” of losing all
    sense of self to be immersed into the abyss of nonrationality. What transcendence or spirituality
    can curb, calm, or tame the rapaciousness, of such furious emotions when they’re upon us? It
    would be like being trapped in a nightmare. And then there are the wasteland emotions of
    hopelessness, futility, boredom, aloneness, guilt, shame, despair, uselessness, dejection,
    heartbreak, unmitigated stress or anxiety angst; of being abandoned, rejected, ridiculed; where the
    pool of forgetfulness, and thoughts of suicide prevail. And then there are the variation of fear:
    anxiety, dread, fright, distress, panic, foreboding. Are there any remedies for such overwhelming,
    self-destructive emotions possible when they strike us unannounced? If there are, I know of none
    other than medication.
  2. So, what we have here is the inevitability of the extremities of our humanity that are almost totally
    impervious to the assuagement of our Love-self; It simply is out of the picture, and out of the
    question, under such duress; and we are left only with the stripped starkness of our poor, woeful
    humanity. We are fairly much on our own. So, in conclusion, we do our best, and hope for the best,
    with what we have and what we are. And when we are struck, as by lightening, we hope that there
    is a vestige of an awareness of our Love-self that may, by as a miracle, with a big help from our
    Friend, and “a little help from our friends” help us get through intact.
  3. And as a further conclusion, our Love-self, spiritual as It is, we have recourse to mostly under our
    normal, everyday emotional life; It is fairly much nullified when under siege by the extremities of our
    human psychology.
  4. It is not to be expected that everyone would be receptive to their Love-self. There are those who
    are so hard-cased to their self-love that for them any notion of their Love-self is as foreign to them
    as the holy grail. I say of “their Love-self,” because It is as much essentially them as It is everyone
    and everything; it’s just that they do not recognize It nor most likely ever will unless a sudden bolt
    of awareness strikes them. Even then it will be interpreted as some other mental phenomenon.
    These are the hard, or hardened persons who are everywhere always. Our Self-love is for the
    basically soft-natured persons who invariably are normally receptive to It if understood or sensed or
    experienced.
  5. Of course there will be times enough when we simply do not, nor cannot, turn to our Love-self for
    Its balm and calm. At such times, self-love reigns and we collapse morally, spiritually, honorably;
    and from that point on we are buffeted left and right, by our vulnerabilities, by our receptivities.
    Hopefully we pull through and return to our Friend who “forgives us seventy times seven.”
    The more immersed we are in our Love-Self, the more our self-love recedes from its dominance,
    the more it concedes its habits – though never entirely, never always.
  6. The despotism of self-love at its extreme shuts out the inroads to our Love-self.
  7. The ultimate act of our Love-Self: Greater love has no man than he lay down his life for his friend
    The ultimate act of self-love: Greater love has no man that he lay down pleasure for pain.
  8. Now I can dirty my hands without being squeamish about it.
    Now it will be easier for me to do the right thing moreso than ever before.
    Now I will be better able to bear my moods: moods of futility, of hopelessness.
  9. Can you bear the grip at the pit of your bowels? Only in keeping with your Love self can you.
  10. We can also think of our Love-Self as our Love-Grace, as discussed in the Seventh Perceptive.

4 th draft
THE LOVE-OATH-RESOLVE

DAY ONE

  1. If you’re not able to resist X altogether, then do so partially; less than normal for you.
    2.. You must most definitely be “in love” with Love for your Love-oath to be effective more than
    periodically- “here today; gone tomorrow,” so to speak.
  2. Our Love Self: our talisman about our daily awareness.
  3. Your X need not be a matter of doing without it; but lessening its excess. On this matter of
    “lessening its excess,” we have to be so careful that, doing so, does not lead back to its habitual
    excess.
  4. As soon as your “devil” creeps in to tempt you away from your Love-Self, on the instant turn to
    your mantra “ ”Resist-Transcendence-Love”, repeated over and over again rapidly so that it
    blocks out that “that old “debil.”
  5. On the initial day, your initiation, so to speak, of beginning your quest for the self-freedom that
    your Love-oath has to offer you, you may feel so inspired, so “glorious,” that you will want you
    forego more of your sensual-sensuous self; however be wary that your cells will want their habi-
    habItual due, and with a vengeance,. One step at a time just as your Love-oath is operative one
    day at a time.
    DAY TWO
  6. When all seems hopeless, and indulgence – indulgence that you always regret –seems your only
    way out of the pain; only your Love-oath for the day can hold you together. Don’t betray it. Be
    strong! Resist! You have your mantras, “resist/transcendence/Love” to help you through the
    cauldrom; you have your love of Love to help you.
  7. Keep notice of your inevitable shifting moods from day to day – “now you’re up then you’re down”
    “now you’re fearless, then you’re fearful” now “you’re sure, then you’re unsure” syndrome –
  8. Doing without or less” is the main matter that our Love-oath has to deal with.
  9. We all know our own particular matter(s) that has to be dealt with each day. These are the
    concerns for your Love-oath pact.
  10. Quick! Catch yourself before you slip. To your mantra of resistance!
  11. Eyes down when “She walks in beauty,” (Byron) by you. Impossible, you say? Practically, yes. So,
    as an alternative, feast your eyes, then “blind” your mind –that is, images and thoughts. In other
    words, indulge your eyes; then let it go. A passing beauty to please the eye and mind. Then, lest
    arousal flood your mind, back to your Love-oath and your transcendent-mantra, and your life as it
    is.
  12. Keep returning to the thought of your Love-Self and the word “Love” amidst your activities. Keep in
    touch.
  13. With your Love-oath, you now have a purpose strong in meaning to put your resist-transcendent-
    Love mantra/Prayer in effect.
  14. Do not – and i repeat, Do not – feel or be defeated should you fall (fail yourself). Pick yourself up
    the next day if possible. Get back on track without any guilt feelings. Make your pact again and
    again – it is always there for you – until you feel ashamed that you’ve gotten so far away from its
    efficacy. It will do you good whenever you genuinely want it to.
  15. Keep your Love-Self close to your bosom as your dear friend who only cares for your good.
  16. Think of yourself as a disciple of Love.
  17. Embrace your Love-Self as your Savior and Friend. You yourself have created it consciously, and it
    is as real as you aspire it to be.
  18. And what would be the natural rebound of breaking our Love pact? Discouragement, giving up,
    exclaiming such exclamations as: “What’s the use,” “The hell with it,” “It’s too hard,” It’s not
    realistic,” “I’m too weak,” “ It’s too demanding,” “I’m only human,” “What’s the use,” and on and on.
    Deceptions! Nothing but deceptions from keeping you
    Day Three
  19. Resist! resist! –: Your first mantra. Your struggle. Next: transcendence-: empty your mind in
    transcendent consciousness. Next: Love-: your Love-self
    2.. Resist! For what reason, for what purpose? For Love. Why Love? Love is your essence (soul), your
    essential Being. How do we know this? Is there not some intangible X holding the universe
    together as -it-is from atom to gravity, from plant life to human life, now and always? This X we call
    Will metaphysically, or Field, scientifically. Humanistically, we call it Love. For those of us who
    aspire to be in touch with this X, we realize we have to minimize our ego-sensual self in order to
    maximize our human-transcendent self
  20. The stimulus (situation) that formerly had you falling into its response will most likely always be
    present; and only your will to resist (thanks to your Love-pact) will save you from your grace (your
    Love-Self). so be prepared to face the situation well-armed against the temptation to cave in. Can
    you do it? Well, you’re at war with yourself for the present time; so, you don’t want be defeated
    again do you. This time you have your grace to keep you aright.
  21. Your grace; that is what your Love-Self is to, for you. Keep that in mind always; for it proffers you
    blessing during your struggles.
  22. I know you feel emotionally cauterizing (burning for release) when “it” (your “issue”) strikes you on
    the sudden that you will not be able to how will you be able to “get on” if you don’t give in to “it” on

the impulse – and it is only the moment; because when you get passed it, it will be as though it
never happened)

  1. Your Love-Self is proof enough of your need to immerse yourself in, and understand, Love in its
    most intimate, revealing secrets – all that is Love both humanly and transcendently.
    Day Four
  2. The ultimate Aim: to be more of your Love-Self than your self-love.
  3. An Average Man
    SELF-LOVE
    “I used to be somewhat hot-tempered and prone to fits of impatience and sometimes anger. Even
    today, there are, of course, times when I lose my composure. When this happens, the least
    annoyance can take on undue proportions and upset me considerably. I may, for example, wake
    up in the morning and feel agitated for no particular reason. In this state, I find that even what
    ordinarily pleases me may irritate me. Just looking at my watch can give rise to feelings of
    annoyance.”
    An Enlightened Man (Ramana Maharshi)
    “Love is not different from the Self … the Self is love”
    Day Five
    As resistance to doing without gradually becomes more and more a welcome behavioral pattern
    (not yet a consistant habit), it might even become more of a pleasure than giving in.
    Day Six
  4. Be at war with yourself, in peace against your lesser self for your greater self. And what is your
    lesser self than no other than your ego-sensuality that demands only its status quo as static in
    effect – or “the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak. And what is your greater self, which is no less
    than that which places you in the center of your transcendence in its Love-self.
    2 “Doing without” in one regard – your humanness (self-love); is in another regard, doing within –
    your transcendence (Love-Self).
    3 Do you feel yourself the warrior today? Then apply your resist-mantra (Love-Self or Love- Grace,
    or Transcendence, or Ascendancy; or whatever other word that suits you best, or what best imbues
    you with the grace that descends upon you unexpectedly, mysteriously . Win over yourself.
  5. That which tantalizes you is usually that which tempts you against your better judgment.
  6. Impulse! Your mortal adversary or your immortal grace beyond conscious thought. It hurls you
    either Into the abyss of disgrace of ruination or the grace of wisdom.
  7. Resist, yes, by all means. But for how long? What is the measure of our endurance;? At what point
    does our resistance collapse? In other words, how long can we hold out? Or do we just reach a
    point when we never do fail ourselves? Not very likely being subject to the frailties of our
    humanness. Consider this line of thought: (1) X tempts and we endure as far as we can, then give
    in; (2) X no longer tempts as much and we endure almost always; (3) X no longer tempts us at all
    as a result of lack of interest and desire through either old age, ennui, depression, sickness,
    lessening of our vital energy; exclusion of all tempting human contact and circumstances; spiritual

immersion, moral virtue, moderate-to-severe madness, and so on? Notice that situations 1,2, and
3 are conditions out of the ordinary; yet most of us are engulfed in the ordinary. Only the
extraordinary (“perfection,” so-called) can propel us consistently – and “consistently” is the key
word – beyond the ordinary. But the extraordinary normally goes against the grain of the ordinary
– ordinary such as our human loves and attachments and their trails of inglorious deeds and
needs. “Trails of glory” are found only in the exceptional; and the exceptional lies in the unity of
(human) nature; the ordinary in the diversity of nature; and it is the diversity of nature (the life force)
which rules the patterns of survival, both physical and psychological.

  1. So where are we in this matter of resistance? Well, we do what we can with the help of our Love-
    oath, knowing all along that being both human and transcendent, we need a wisdom that will
    balance both aspects of our human nature according to our own disposition and temperament –
    our personality-character; in a word. And that wisdom is a human-transcendent wisdom bolster by
    our Love-oath. And it is this human-transcendence that keeps our humanness transcendent
    enough to keep our dignity, our honor, our relationships mostly in tact, and mostly in harmony
    amidst the clash of opposites between other persons and opposing circumstances.

Repeat?

SELF-LOVE / LOVE-SELF

Love Contra Strife

Our focus now is inward to be outward
by transforming the predominance
of our self-love to our Love-self.
                                              – Joseph
Love endows us with a sort of personal religion;
we respect another live within ourselves.
                                                      – Honoré de Balzac

  1.  We have our self-love and we have our Love-self.
  2.  Our self-love expresses our psychology; our Love-self expresses our transcendence.
  3.  Our self-love is concerned with our ego-sensuality; our Love-self is concerned with our
    human-transcendence.
  4. Our self-love preserves our self-identity; our Love-self preserves our self-freedom.
  5.  Our self-love says “I”; our Love-self says “We.”
  6. Self-love says, “Me first”; Love-self says “You first.”
  7. Self-preference, self-concern, self-interest, self-assertion, self-confidence, self-conscious, self-
    sufficient, self-contained, self-control, self-defense, self-denial, self-depreciation, self-
    destruction, self-determination, self-effacing, self-esteem, self- lessness, self-criticism, self-
    giving, selfish, unselfish, self-identity, self-importance, self-assurance, self-centered, self-
    mastery, self-poised, self-recrimina tion, self-regard, self-righteous, self-sacrifice, self-
    satisfaction,  self-seeking self-starter, self-sufficient, self-will, self-worth
  8. Yes, we love ourselves – natural; Yes, we love Love – trans-natural   
  9.  I did it for my own sake as contrasted with I did it for Love’s sake.
  10. Our ego-self: I want; our self-love: I need.
  11. Since the word “self” is included in both self-love and Love-self, let us take a look at the
    word as it applies either predominantly to self-love or Love self, or to both.   
  12.  Acquaintance with our Love-self is to be the quest of our life – a life of beauty and wonder.
  13.  And what is this Love-self of which we are to be acquainted? Is it not the very pith, essence,
    of our being?  How so?  As Love binds all individual beings as one, so our Love-self binds us
    not only to our individual being, but to all beings as well. And “all beings” is as if to say, being
    itself as the bond of all beings.
  14.  The ultimate act of selfless love: “Greater love has no man than he lay down  his life for his
    friend.”
  15.  The ultimate act of self-love: Greater love has no man than he forego pleasure in pain.
  16.  The ultimate Aim: to be more of your Love-Self than your self-love.
  17.  “Love is not different from the Self . . .  the Self is love” (Ramana Maharshi)
  18.  Our Love-Self is our eternal youth, our immortal mortality.
  19.  We have our self-love, our Love-Self, and their Love-Being – or simply Love itself or Being
    itself. Our self-love is our humanity in all its splendor and  meaning, our Love-Self is our
    transcendence in all its wonder and  meaning, and their Love-Being is the source of both in all its
    sacredness and meaning.
  20.  Make your Love-Self your constant companion.
  21.  Yes, love your self; it’s your humanity; and yes love your Love-self even more since it is that
    which enriches your humanity.
  22.  In your weakness, garnish strength from your Friend and Companion.
  23.  No one loves you? then either they are unworthy or you are unworthy; or you do not know
    them, nor they you; or you – nor they – have not had the opportunity to meet you. In either case,
    if you are worthy, you have your Love-self to love and be loved as your friend and companion
    until you meet your counterpart(s) who love It much as you do.   
  24.  When you burn with untoward desire or lust, or revenge, or resentment, turn to the
    immediacy of your Love-self and transcend with its flood of ease, calm and relief.
  25.  Consider Jesus or Buddha or Krishna, or anyone else divinely lived as the em- embodiment
    of your Love-self; so, by living their precepts, their gospel, you’re in touch with their divinity.
    But if neither personage will do for you, then you have the source of their gospel within yourself
    to be in touch with – your Love-self, as it was theirs.
  26.  Your Love-self is with you always, right or wrong; but with a conscience if guilt- ily wrong.
  27.  It is with you always, conscious or unconscious of It; but it is your task to make it conscious
    so that It becomes an intimate part of your daily life.
  28.  Think It always, though you may not feel It always – or even rarely. Actually you neither
    think nor feel It itself; but rather the effects of It.
  29.  When your humanness springs its multifarious offshoots –- which is nearly always –
    consider it your self-love that motivates it; when your transcendence intervenes – which, in
    comparison to your humanness,  is nearly never – consider it your Love-self that intervenes to
    remind you that you are more than your humanness.  
  30.  Self-love:  self-preservation, self-interest, self-involvement, self-centered, self-confident,
    self-assured, self-esteem, self-mastery, self-respect, self-aware, self-abasement, self-absorption,
    self-flattery, self-complacent, self-conscious, self-control, self-deceit, self-improvement,  self-
    sabotage, self-sufficient, self-defense, self-indulgent, self-incrimination,  self-sacrifice, self-
    seeking, self-righteous, self-reliant, self-restraint, self-excitation, self-abuse, self-destruction … –
    all natural, both beneficial and harmful; but limiting, insecure, threatened, temporary.  
  31.  Your self-love is referred to as “who”; your Love-self is referred to as “what.” “Who” is
     personal; “What” is transpersonal. Both have their place in our lives. But the question remains
    always for each individual: Which is to take precedence in one’s life?  I suppose it comes down
    to which is more pressing, if not consciously, then unconsciously to the individual. In either case,
    one’s Love-self is eternally present being conscious of It or unconscious of It.
  32.  Become intimate with your Friend; personalize It; since It is you limitlessly.
  33.  You’re hurting emotionally? Turn it over to your Friend. It will help you take care of it.
  34.  Something is present ever in the background of our mind that induces us to think and act
    transcendently beyond our humanness wherever we can. Let us call that ever-presence our Love-
    self: that aspect of us that wants and needs to love beyond ourselves and to be loved for
    ourselves.
  35.  Our Love-self is indifferent to good and evil – actually to everything human – It is just
    “there” for us to choose or not , utilize or not, to unify ourselves with any giv- en situation or
    person.
  36.  Our Love-self we can think of as simply Love – that which binds all things, all matters, in
    unity. In which case, our Love-self is no more nor no less than Love Itself, other than being
    personalized.
  37.  It is our mind that personalizes Love as our Love-self.
  38.  Yes, you will lose touch with your Love-self periodically; but it is there for you when you
    are ready for your return. What determines this “readiness” is indeterm- inate; but it will happen
    for sure so long as you do not sink under your humanness.
  39.  Our Love-self is Love personalized.
  40.  Old, unwanted habits cling to us tenaciously however in the background of our mind they
    may be; and the more insistent they are, the more they trouble us, even torture us.  
  41.  And should we lose that whom we love the most, the most intense,  – child or spouse
    especially – for that loss there is no remedy, no “except”. Our vital nature takes over and grief
    consumes us so that we die to our self-love and so to our Love-self for the duration of that grief.
    What remains is a kind of suspended vacuum en- cased in pain if not anguish. Self-love will
    return as will Love-self. Which, however will have the more effect on one’s life?
  42.  Old, unwanted habits cling to us however they may be placed in the background of our
    mind; and the more insistent they are, the more they pervade our lives and relationships. How
    does our Love-self, our Friend, override, overcome, those pests? Probable answer: A habit
    stronger than all other habits.  And you know the habit of which I speak.
  43.  When overwhelmed by pernicious or lusting habits – or more to the point, addictions – you
    can be sure that our Love-self is fairly much deadened without recourse. And so? Possible
    answer: rebuild! replace! rearrange! these stimulus-response, synaptic, cellular reactions,
    reflexes, so that attraction turns either to recoil or to passivity. A matter of reconditioning and
    reinforcement. How? Answers abound, according to each individual and each situation. Yet one
    constant underlies all these answers, whether they be psychological, philosophical, religious,
    spiritual, and that is, the ever-abiding Love-self: our savior.
  44.  Yes, Jesus may be your savior, or Buddha, or Krishna, or Mohammed, or whoever else; but
    keep in mind that these personages were illumined by their experience of the eternity of Love,
    whether called Brahma, or God, or Allah, or Dharma, whichever; and that Love expressed itself
    through their Love-self for which they were in touch and lived by. We too can live by and
    through our Love-self; most likely not nearly to the extent that these masters did, still, as Lennon
    sang in “Instant Karma,” you can Come and get your share.
  45.  Concerned about doing the right thing or not? Your Friend will help you decide.
  46.  Some of us are temperamenally graced with the virtue of patience; others are not. For those
    who are not, only by turning to our Love-self can we temper the thrust of our intemperate
    impatience.
  47. As for our wayward impulses – well, all I can say about them is that we do not have much of
    a chance against them; except, perhaps, in some cases, if we are immersed enough in our Love-
    self as a way of life. It is a struggle – not always, but enough to realize and accept that, after all,
    we are, and always will be to some degree subject to vagaries of our humanness.
  48.  Oh, the relief to turn to my Love-self and be relieved of that anxious mood!
  49.  Here is a way to offset unwanted thoughts and images when they invade and pervade your
    vulnerable mind: ? Repeat on the spot, the word “Transcendence” over and over again rapidly so
    that you do not leave “room” for any other thought. Then just as quickly, switch to the thought of
    your “Love-self” and repeat rapidly “My Love-self,” or “My Friend,” or simply “Love”; keep at
    it until the unwanted/wanted thought dispels. If the word these latter word-thoughts do not take
    effect, then return to the rapid repetition of the word “Transcendence”. That should do it, if you
    truly want or need to rid yourself of that tempting thought or image. And for this process to have
    a lasting, consistent effect, you have to be strongly determined to make it work; otherwise, long-
    term psychological habits persist relentlessly – I mean it is a matter of being embedded in your
    cells (stimulus/response, attraction/re- pulsion, depletion/repletion it will always work for minor
    matters; for major matters, the struggle is ongoing so long as temptation is on the make to seduce
    you. You know that phrase the motto, “make love not war”; well, relatedly, Your motto is to be
    “Make victory not defeat.”
  50.  Frenetic! Frantic! Obsessive! Furious! Lustful! – These emotional extremities  are self-love
    gone impulsively wild, which instinctively place us on the verge of going “over the edge,” of
    losing all sense of self to be immersed into the abyss of nonrationality. What transcendence or
    spirituality can curb, calm, or tame the rapa- ciousness, of such furious emotions when they’re
    upon us? It would be like being trapped in a nightmare. And then there are the wasteland
    emotions of hope less- ness, futility, boredom, aloneness, guilt, shame, despair, uselessness,
    dejection, heartbreak, unmitigated stress or anxiety angst; of being abandoned, rejected,
    ridiculed; where the pool of forgetfulness, and thoughts of suicide prevail. And then there are the
    variation of fear: anxiety, dread, fright, distress, panic, foreboding.   
         Are there any remedies for such overwhelming, self-destructive emotions pos- sible when
    they strike us unannounced? If there are, I know of none other than medication.

     So, what we have here is the inevitability of the extremities of our humanity that are almost
totally impervious to the assuagement of our Love-self; It simply is out of the picture, and out of
the question, under such duress; and we are left only with the stripped starkness of our poor,
woeful humanity. We are fairly much on our own. So, in conclusion, we do our best, and hope
for the best, with what we have and what we are. And when we are struck, as by lightening, we
hope that there is a vestige of an awareness of our Love-self that may, by as a miracle, with a big
help from our Friend, and “a little help from our friends” help us get through intact.
     And as a further conclusion, our Love-self, spiritual as It is, we have recourse to mostly under
our normal, everyday emotional life; It is fairly much nullified when under siege by the
extremities of our human psychology.

  1.  It is not to be expected that everyone would be receptive to their Love-self. There are those
    who are so hard-cased to their self-love that for them any notion of their Love-self is as foreign
    to them as the holy grail. I say of “their Love-self,” be- cause It is as much essentially them as It
    is everyone and everything; it’s just that they do not recognize It nor most likely ever will unless
    a sudden bolt of awareness strikes them. Even then it will be interpreted as some other mental
    phenomenon. These are the hard, or hardened persons who are everywhere always. Our Self-love
    is for the basically soft-natured persons who invariably are normally receptive to It if under-
    stood or sensed or experienced.
  2.  Of course there will be times enough when we simply do not, nor cannot, turn to our Love-
    self for Its balm and calm. At such times, self-love reigns and we col- lapse morally, spiritually,
    honorably; and from that point on we are buffeted left and right, by our vulnerabilities, by our
    receptivities. Hopefully we pull through and return to our Friend who “forgives us seventy times
    seven.”
  3.  The more immersed we are in our Love-Self, the more our self-love recedes from its
    dominance, the more it concedes its habits – though never entirely, never always.
  4.  The despotism of self-love at its exreme shuts out the priority of our Love-self.
  5.  The ultimate act of selfless  love: Greater love has no man than he lay down  his life for his
    friend
  6.  The ultimate act of self-love: Greater love has no man that he lay down pleasure for pain.
  7.  Now I can dirty my hands without being squeamish about it.
  8.  Now it will be easier for me to do the right thing moreso than ever before.
  9.  Now I will be better able to bear my moods: moods of futility, of hopelessness.
  10.  Can you bear the exposed nerve at the pit of your bowels? Only in keeping with your Love
    self can you.

THE LOVE-OATH
Made for the Sake of One’s Love-Self.

DAY ONE

  1.  If you’re not able to resist X altogether, then do so partially; less than normal for you.
  2.  You must most definitely be “in love” with Love for your Love-oath to be effective more than
    periodically – “here today; gone tomorrow,” so to speak.
  3. Our Love Self: our talisman about our daily awareness.
  4. Your X need not be a matter of doing without it; but lessening its excess. On this matter of
    “lessening its excess,” we have to be so careful that, doing so, does not lead back to its habitual
    excess.
         As soon as your “devil” creeps in to tempt you away from your Love-Self, on the instant turn
    to your mantra  “Resist–Transcendence-Love”, repeated over and over again rapidly so that it
    blocks out “that old “debil.”
         On the initial day, your initiation, so to speak, of beginning your quest for the self-freedom
    that your Love-oath has to offer you, you may feel  so inspired, so “glorious,” that you will want
    you forego more of your sensual-sensuous self; how- ever be wary that your cells will want their
    habitual due, and with a vengeance. One step at a time just as your Love-oath is operative one
    day at a time.
    DAY TWO
  5.  When all seems hopeless, and indulgence – indulgence that you always regret –  seems your
    only way out of the pain; only your Love-oath for the day can hold you together. Don’t betray it.
    Be strong! Resist! You have your mantras, “resist/trans- cendence/Love” to help you through the
    cauldrom; you have your love of Love to help you.
  6.  Keep notice of your inevitable shifting moods from day to day – “now you’re up then you’re
    down” “now you’re fearless, then you’re fearful”  now “you’re sure, then you’re unsure”
    syndrome.
  7.  “Doing without or less” is the main matter that our Love-oath has to deal with.
  8.  We all know our own particular matter(s) that has to be dealt with each day. These are the
    concerns for your Love-oath pact.
  9.  Quick! Catch yourself before you slip. To your mantra of resistance!
  10.  Eyes down when “She walks in beauty,” (Byron) by you. Impossible, you  say? Practically,
    yes. So, as an alternative, feast your eyes, then “blind” your mind – that is,  images and thoughts.
    In other words, indulge your eyes; then let it go. A passing beauty to please the eye and mind.
    Then, lest arousal flood your mind, back to your Love-oath and your transcendent-mantra, and
    your life as it is.
  11.  Keep returning to the thought of your Love-oath and the word “Love” amidst your activities.
    Keep in touch.
  12.  With your Love-oath, you now have a purpose strong in meaning to put your resist-
    transcendent-Love mantra/Prayer in effect.
  13.  Do not – and i repeat, Do not – feel or be defeated should you fall  (fail yourself). Pick
    yourself up the next day if possible. Get back on track without any guilt feel- ings. Make your
    pact again and again – it is always there for you – until you feel ashamed that you’ve gotten so far
    away from its efficacy. It will do you good when- ever you genuinely want it to.
  14.  Keep your Love-oath close to your bosom as your dear friend who only cares for your good.
  15.  Think of yourself as a disciple of Love.
  16.  Embrace your Love-oath as your Savior and Friend. You yourself have created it
    consciously, and it is as real as you aspire it to be.
  17.  And what would be the natural rebound  of breaking our Love pact? Discourage- ment,
    giving up, exclaiming such exclamations as: “What’s the use,” “The hell with it,” “It’s too hard,”
    It’s not realistic,” “I’m too weak,”  ” It’s too demanding,” “I’m only human,”  “What’s the use,”
    and on and on. Deceptions! Nothing but decep- tions from keeping you on task.
    Day Three
  18.  Resist! resist!–: Your first mantra – Your struggle. Next: transcendence: empty your mind in
    transcendent consciousness. Next: Love – your Love-oath.
  19.  Resist! For what reason, for what purpose? For Love. Why Love? Love is your essence
    (soul), your essential Being. How do we know this? Is there not some intangible X holding the
    universe together as-it-is from atom to gravity, from plant life to human life, now and always?
    This X we call Will metaphysically, or Field, scientifically. Humanistically, we call it Love. For
    those of us who aspire to be in touch with this X, we realize we have to minimize our ego-
    sensual self in order to maximize our human-transcendent .
         The stimulus (situation) that formerly had you falling into its response will most likely always
    be present; and only your will to resist (thanks to your Love-pact) will save you from your grace
    (your Love-Self). So be prepared to face the situation well-armed against the temptation to cave
    in. Can you do it? Well, you’re at war with yourself for the present time; so, you don’t want be
    defeated again do you. This time you have your grace to keep you aright.

     Your grace; that is what your Love-oath is to, for you. Keep that in mind always; for it
proffers you blessing during your struggles.
     I know you feel emotionally cauterizing (burning for release) when “it” (your “issue”) strikes
you on the sudden that you will not be able to how will you be able to  “get on” if you don’t  give
in to “it” on the impulse – and it is only the moment; because when you get passed it, it will be as
though it never happened)

  1.  Your Love-Self is proof enough of your need to immerse yourself in, and understand, Love in
    its most intimate, revealing secrets – all that is Love both humanly and transcendently.
    Day Five
    As resistance to doing without  gradually becomes more and more a welcome behavioral pattern
    (not yet a consistant habit), it might even become more of a pleasure than giving in.
    Day Six
  2.  Be at war with yourself in peace against your lesser self for your greater self. And what is
    your lesser self than no other than your ego-sensuality that demands only its status quo as static
    in effect – or “the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak. And what is your greater self, which is
    no less than that which places you in the center of your transcendence in its Love-self.
  3.  “Doing without” in one regard – your humanness; is in another regard, doing within – your
    transcendence.
  4.  Do you feel yourself the warrior today? Then apply your resist-mantra primarily. Win over
    yourself.
  5.  That which tantalizes you  is usually that which tempts you against your better judgment.
  6.  Impulse! Your mortal adversary or your immortal grace beyond conscious thought. It hurls
    you either Into the abyss  of disgrace of ruination or the grace of wisdom.
  7.  Resist, yes, by all means. But for how long? What is the measure of our endur- ance;? At
    what point does our resistance collapse? In other words, how long can we hold out? Or do we
    just reach a point when we never do fail ourselves? Not very likely being subject to the frailties
    of our humanness.  Consider this line of thought: (1) X tempts and we endure as far as we can,
    then give in; (2) X no longer tempts as much and we endure almost always; (3) X no longer
    tempts us at all as a result of lack of interest and desire through  either old age, ennui, depression,
    sickness, lessening of our vital energy; exclusion of all tempting human contact and circum-
    stances; spiritual immersion, moral virtue, moderate-to-severe madness, and so on?   Notice that
    situations 1,2, and 3 are conditions out of the ordinary; yet most of us are engulfed in the
    ordinary. Only the extraordinary (“perfection,” so-called) can propel us consistently – and
    “consistently” is the key word – beyond the ordinary.  But the extraordinary normally goes
    against the grain of the ordinary – ordinary such as our human loves and attachments and their
    trails of inglorious deeds and needs. “Trails of glory” are found only in the exceptional; and the
    exceptional lies in the unity of (human) nature; the ordinary in the diversity of nature; and it is

the diversity of nature (the life force) which rules the patterns of survival, both physical and
psychological.
     So where are we in this matter of resistance? Well, we do what we can with the help of our
Love-oath, knowing all along that being both human and transcendent, we need a wisdom that
will balance both aspects of our human nature according to our own disposition and temperament
– our personality-character; in a word. And that wisdom is a human-transcendent wisdom
bolstered by our Love-oath. And it is this human-transcendence that keeps our humanness
transcendent enough to keep our dignity, our honor, our relationships mostly intact, and mostly
in harmony amidst the clash of opposites between other persons and opposing circumstances.

  1. What certainly needs to be addressed in this matter of Love-self with its accom- panying
    Love-oath, is the severity of self-destructive addictions. Generally, not much can be done for
    them, since their sense of self will have been obliterated under the continuing  baleful impulse
    for their next “fix”. Ruination of all that they hold dear and secure rules them as their humanity
    topples from one stage to another for the “must” of their only love: bodily-mental ecstatics.
         Only their instinct for survival, when it comes down to live or die, can alter this endless hell.
    And this is where love comes into play: the support and care of others for their rehabilitation.
    And once this rehabilitation is well on its way, however pre-  cariously, their humanity gradually
    infuses them once again, their addiction retreats into the background – though always instilled in
    their cells as a latent disease – and then they can breathe freely again and regain a strengthening
    degree of psycho- logical, emotional, and social normalcy after so much mental  entanglement.
          Much more than these, however are necessary for many individuals; for them to recover
    securely, spiritual/religious regeneration demands its due; and here is where our Love-within
    religion, Transconsciousness, takes its placefor those who are recep- tive to it.